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Life Lessons Should Learned at 30, to Avoid Regrets When 60.

• Not everyone wants to see you succeed. Some will even go out of their way to see you fail. Learn to be self-sufficient and realize that if you don't become independent and resourceful, you'll suffer horribly later. Stop worrying about what other people think.

• Keep to yourself and stay away from idiots; stupidity is contagious. Your friends want you to do well, but not better than them. The rest don't care. Learn how to say it and mean it. Don't say yes to everyone to make them comfortable; check with yourself before you commit.

• Many people don't like you, especially if they see you as competition. Rule your life with your mind, not with your feelings. Every bad decision we have made in life has more emotion in it than the mind. Always listen to your gut; it knows many things you wouldn't expect. Know your worth and never put yourself in the bargain bin, or that's where others will value you.

• Time flies. Be grateful always because it can always be worse. Live like there's no tomorrow and do what you love. Don't get bogged down in regrets; no one is perfect. Don't chase happiness, just stay positive, and you will experience joy. Pay close attention to those who say they love you; often, they only use you. Trust in yourself and your first instinct on decisions.

• Lower your expectations; having high expectations of yourself and others is a recipe for chronic dissatisfaction. Accept that some people love to point fingers and blame others. You will be blamed for things you haven't done and for things that haven't even happened yet. Stop complaining, whining, and nagging; it's wasted energy. Who's listening anyway?

• Realize you cannot control everything or everyone, but you can control yourself, and that's even better. Always move in your own direction, not according to society, friends, or family. Leave the house messy and the yard unmowed for the weekend; you'll remember the fun, not the clean house or yard. Make time for fun. Learn to say no.

• Be frugal. Eat only real food, no wheat, and limit carbs. The more you know, the dumber you sound to stupid people. Pay attention to the negative signs that people give off and immediately disconnect from them; it will save you a lot of pain and, more importantly, wasted time.

• Never take on responsibilities that do not belong to you. Never sell out, and trust your instincts. Most importantly, never take loved ones for granted. Have firm boundaries and be discerning about who you let into your life. If you want to help yourself, find someone worthy to serve. Through service, you gain experience, contacts, and a reputation as a reliable and accountable ally. It is only through an apprenticeship that one becomes a master.

• Buy real estate, land, anything you can afford. The fewer possessions you own, the happier and less burdened you will be. Life is often ambiguous; sometimes there isn't a right or wrong decision. Things are not always clear; you may not get the answer, so you just have to wing it.

• Don't leave someone to teach them a lesson; leave because you learned yours. Life is far from over, but it's very short too. If you want to do something, don't delay, but don't sacrifice what you want for what you want right now. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

• Keep friends with people you want to emulate, not those you think will accept you. The people you associate with will shape your future. Be careful who you marry, and even more careful who you have kids with. Slow down and realize that mistakes are essential to learning anything. Get yourself together before you get any older; the older you are, the harder it is to change.

• No one cares except family. Start saving your money; don't spend it on homes you can't afford, fancy cars, and running your credit cards to the max. In the end, you'll be much happier. Nothing is as bad as it seems or as great as you think it will be. Take good care of your health; without health, nothing will matter. No amount of money can bring you joy if you are suffering.

• Hurry before thirty; have kids before thirty-five. Work and earn actively and sufficiently until forty. Make passive income workable before fifty. Plan to retire from work activity before sixty. Do everything for family but expect nothing from it, not even from a spouse. You'll never be sorry for telling someone you love them; do it before it's too late. Save a little money every week or month; nothing gives you happiness like a financial buffer.

• If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Not everybody wants to be your friend, and that's okay; you don't want everybody as a friend anyway. You don't always have to be going, being, and doing; it's really okay to just chill. Give back, even if it's donating your tag sale leftovers or handing a dollar bill to someone less fortunate. It will make you feel good. Everything happens for a reason, always.

• Do not fear getting hurt; you can't grow if you don't hurt. Don't ruin your health to earn money; you'll end up spending your money to recover your health. Be kind to people without allowing them to take advantage of your good nature. Efforts never go in vain. How others see you is not important; how you see yourself means everything.

• The only way to live like a king is to work like a slave. Everything you need will come to you at the perfect time. You came into this huge world alone and will go out of it alone; hence, you can make any impossible thing possible by yourself. Punish the truth; expect to be lied to. You will look back at your life with much more regret for the things you didn't do than for the things you did.

• Things don't make us happy; experiences do. Keep your mouth shut whenever you are happy. Keep your mouth shut whenever you are sad. Stop comparing yourself with those who started ten years before you; focus on your own journey. You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. If you waste money, you can earn it again; if you miss the moment, it can never be returned.

• Live life with open eyes, ears, and heart. Strong people are always simple. You spend your first twenty years worrying about what people think about you. You spend your next twenty years swearing that you don't care what people think about you. You spend the next twenty years realizing they aren't thinking about you. Never let others know your weaknesses; always try to show your positives.

• Don't tell your friends you're happy; don't make them angry. Don't tell your enemies you're unhappy; don't make them happy. Time flies. One day you're thirty, the next you're fifty. Plan now for what you want fifty to look like. Last but not least, you are here for a reason that you may not know, but be patient. You beat a billion odds by being here. Be grateful for the little things in life that others take for granted.

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